A Poll on Defriendings and Disagreements

[dolorous_ett]

It's that time of year again. Strong opinions are being voiced. People are making angry posts - and popping up in other people's journals to make angry comments. Defriending is in the air.[Poll #1191642][Poll #1191642]  ETA: Thank you for all your enlightening comments! I will reply to all as soon as current RL work crisis is resolved.

Comments

[a-t-rain.livejournal.com]

I have never actually defriended anybody, but I've thought about it (and may yet do it). I don't know. I have a really strong, gut-level distaste for defriending people for their opinions, rather than their behavior. But at the same time, I consider some of the views this person has expressed to be outright bigoted, and I'm not sure I like being in the position of condoning them, even passively. (I'm talking real-world political posts here, not fandom ones-- I think it would be rather silly to defriend someone over a difference of fandom opinion.)

There are a few people who have friended me whom I haven't friended back, but mostly because their journals are totally blank and I can't ascertain for sure that they're not one of my students.

[tunxeh.livejournal.com]

I think it would be rather silly to defriend someone over a difference of fandom opinion.

If they're persistently posting stuff you find annoying about a fandom you care about, why not? You're not obligated to continue to tolerate their annoyance just to avoid being mean to them.

[a-t-rain.livejournal.com]

I guess I can't see myself getting that annoyed over a fandom post? The only circumstances where I could imagine that happening would involve, say, someone expressing virulently misogynistic attitudes toward any and all female characters, and that might shade into real-life political territory anyway.

Mostly, I don't read posts that I know are going to annoy me.